Web Links

 

 

Before you review the web links provided on this page, read this first.

 

There are many web sites out there that will come up in searches related to parental rights, child custody and divorce. However, many sites, especially those that appear to be related to men’s rights in divorce, are actually designed by legal firms to grab clients. Be aware and be wary of sites designed to prospect for potential clients, and likely, desperate parents. Naturally, there are notable exceptions to this, and some law firms are marvelous at effectively and genuinely advocating for parental rights without intentionally adding to the animosity common to family courts.

 

There are the many self-promoters and hucksters that advertise themselves as champions of parents in divorce, and especially, of fathers. A common theme is that of one parent "winning" over the other. That sort of mindset is troubling. Even so, their message is rarely dismissive of the opposite gender. On the other hand, there are several prominent and vocal web sites that have an air of gender superiority about them. They seem to wail endlessly about the conspiracy or nefarious motives of “men’s rights” and the supposed damage that will do to “women’s rights.” You will not find those sorts of web sites listed here - so look elsewhere for them. Also, some seeingly pro-parent or pro-father organizations may be be populated by those who, desite their purported mission to improve conditions, are at their core little different from any other excessive, petty, ego-driven elitists; True Believers. Be careful which organizations you put in with.

 

Gender protection should not require the inferior status of any other. Issues faced by either parent in divorce, especially child custody, are too important for anyone to so readily and purposefully assign rights to one gender over the other – and to do so with an urgency as if by not doing so would invite calamity. As stated in my book, taking sides only increases the gender divide – when we should instead be cooperatively focused on parental rights.

 

Consider this quote from Helen Keller:

 

 

"Until the great mass of people shall be fitted with the sense of responsibility for each other's welfare, social justice can never be attained."

 

The sheer number of parent’s rights groups speaks to our inability to set aside differences and join in a common cause. Should you read my book, you may too realize that this may be our most troubling defect; our propensity to create differences, and therefore disunity, instead of celebrating our common humanity. That being said, below is a short list of web sites with practical advice and information.


 

Parenting, Family, Marriage, Shared Parenting, Children

 

 

http://www.acfc.org“American Coalition for Fathers and Children” (ACFC). – a Washington D. C. based national advocacy group focused on shared parenting and parental rights.

 

http://www.childrenofmomanddad.blogspot.com – a weekly blog dedicated to shared parenting and joint custody – features information on a wide range of family topics.

 

http://www.crckids.org Children’s Rights Council (CRC). Their motto: "The Best Parent is Both Parents.”  An excellent organization devoted to children’s rights.

 

http://www.frc.org “Family Research Council” (FRC). Focused on traditional family values.

 

http://www.hhs.gov/children/ – web page of the Federal Department of Health and Social Services (HSS) devoted to family issues.

 

http://library.softgenx.com/ – a web site with a comprehenisve"Family Policy Library" with many valuable sources.

 

http://www.marriagesavers.org – a site devoted to the revitalization of marriage.

 

http:// www.nationalplc.org – The National Parent's Leadership Council - "Working to Protect Family Rights."
 

http://www.ncfr.org“National Council on Family Relations.” An interdisciplinary forum about families and family relationships.

 

http://www.okmarriage.org – The Oklahoma Marriage Initiative – research, programs, training and workshops to strengthen marriage and help couples build and sustain healthy marriages.

 

http://www.parentalrights.org“Parental Rights Organization” – interested in protecting and ensuring parental constitutional rights. Legislation advocacy as well as resources and information.

 

http://www.profam.org – The Howard Center for Family, Religion and Society.  Books and information on family, divorce, parenting and social issues related to family.

 

http://www.responsibledivorce.com – a web site with information on divorce, parenting and more.
 

http://www.urban.org – The Urban Institute – studies and research include informing citizens on government decisions related to non-custodial fathers, child support and parenting.

 

http://www.sharedparentingworks.org a site full of state-by-state links to resources and information on custody, divorce, parenting, etc.  

 

http://www.smartmarriages.com“The Coalition for Marriage, Family and Couples Education”

 

http://www.strongermarriage.org – tools and tips to strengthen your marriage and develop lasting marital partnerships.

 

http://www.warshak.com web site of Dr. Richard Warshak, author of “Divorce Poison” and “The Custody Revolution.”

 

 

Fathers and Children, Men’s Rights 

 

http://www.dadsrights.com Father’s rights advocate, author and attorney, Jeffrey M. Leving’s excellent and no-nonsense resource for divorcing fathers.

 

http://www.divorcedfathers.com a peer-supported network of divorced fathers dedicated to improving lives of children, fathers and mothers during and after divorce.

 

http://www.fact.on.ca“Fathers Are Capable Too.” Canadian web site devoted to parents, fathers and father’s rights with links to articles and information. 

 

http://www.fathermag.com “The online magazine for men with families.” For all things father and family and mothers too – resources, articles, book reviews and more.

 

http://www.fathers.com“National Center for Fathering” - a site with links and resources.

 

http://www.fathersforlife.org Find information related to families, fathers and exposing the harm of gender politics.

 

http://www.fathers-4-justice.org–  A British organization committed to increasing public awareness of disparity in treatment for fathers in child custody cases.

 

http://www.fatherproject.com Dedicated to reuniting fathers with their children and fostering a continued connection between fathers, mothers and children.

 

http://www.fathersunite.org“Kids Are Everything to Us” - information for parents and non-custodial parents and ensuring equal rights to parents.

 

http://mensstudies.metapress.com – Journal of Men’s Studies (JMS) – scholarship, books, journals on issues facing men. Their companion site: http://www.mensstudies.info.

 

http://www.ncoff.gse.upenn.edu– The National Center on Fathers and Families – “NCOFF is dedicated to research and practice that expands the knowledge base on father involvement and family development, and that informs policy designed to improve the well-being of children.”

 

http://www.stolenvows.com– Information on both no-fault divorce history and implications as well as resources for marriage preservation and sane divorce.

 

http://www.warrenfarrell.com– Author Warren Farrell’s site on fathers, families and sexism.

 

 

Court Corruption, Abuse Accusations and Problems with Family Law

 
http://blog.angry-dad.com - A California father blogs about his own case and reports on new related to family law malfunction and similar topics.

 

http://www.exiledfathers.org – devoted to shared parenting and family law issues.

 

http://www.realfamilylaw.com – Helpful advice and biting criticisms by a family law attorney.

 

http://www.mediaradar.org“Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting.” A site devoted to the balanced, objective reporting of domestic violence.

 

 

Parental Alienation, Borderline Personalities, etc.

 

http://www.afamilysheartbreak.com a PAS awareness site that also offers a book written by a parent who spent years combating PAS and trying to repair relations with a son.

 

http://www.bpdcentral.com – Resources regarding Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).

 

http://www.bpdresources.net – Contains sections on BPD, PAS, custody issues, false accusations and more.

 

http://www.keepingfamiliesconnected.org – An organization started by parents subjected to PA/PAS. Besides their story, the site contains useful information and links.

 

http://www.lucifereffect.com Find information on Dr. Philip Zimbardo’s famous Stanford University prison experiment, and on how to promote “prosocial actions” to better mankind and distance ourselves from evil behaviors and influence.

 

http://paawareness.org – Parental Alienation Awareness Organization (PAAO). Clearinghouse for parental alienation information.

 

http://www.stopparentalalienation.org – The web site of SPAC – “Stop Parental Alienation of Children” – information about PAS.

 

http://www.warshak.com  web site of Dr. Richard Warshak, author of “Divorce Poison” and “The Custody Revolution – with information on Parental Alienation.

 

 

The Misuse and Abuse of "Science" in the courtroom:

 

Now, when it comes to the divorce and child custody industries, this book does not play favorites. In fact, it is rightly critical of family law attorneys and child custody evaluators as a group. So, it is sure to offend those who make their livelihood at these professions. But then, the truth has a way of doing that.

 

In particular, I zero in on the concocted pseudo-science of child custody evaluations. Methods used are unscientific, poorly constructed, haphazardly  administered, and interpreted with bias. They are unreliable "shapshots" that are likely not readily reproducible due to both the methods used, and because the responses of the subjects can and do vary over time. However, the users tend to couch their methodology using terms such as "scientific," "valid," "reliable," "effective," and similar false advertising labels. But be aware that more attention is being focused on errant science - the unreliable and un-reproducible research - especially related to clinical psychology.  To learn more, and to understand why clinical evaluations are too often suspect, especially with regard to child custody evaluations, check out these links:

 

 

The Economist, October 19, 2013: Trouble at the Lab. "Scientists like to think of science as self-correcting. To an alarming degree, it is not." -
http://www.economist.com/news/briefing/21588057-scientists-think-science-self-correcting-alarming-degree-it-not-trouble

 

Business Insider, October 22, 2012: False Positive Psychology - http://www.businessinsider.com/why-psychology-research-is-unreliable-2012-10

 

Intropsyc.com: Self-Report Measures: Notoriously Unreliable - http://www.intropsych.com/ch01_psychology_and_science/self-report_measures.html

 

False-Positive Psychology: Undisclosed Flexibility in Data Collection and Analysis Allows Presenting Anything as Significant - Joseph P. Simmons, Leif D. Nelson and Uri Simonsohn, 2011- http://www.socio.mta.hu/dynamic/simmons_et_al_2011.pdf

 

Children as Pawns: Who Determines Custody? October, 2003 - Lawrence Jay Braunstein -
http://www.bzesqs.com/articles/Children%20As%20Pawns.pdf

 

Psychologists and Section 15 (Custody Evaluation) Reports: Illusions of Expertise, Ethics and Objectivity; May 6, 1998 - Dr. Tana Dineen -
http://tanadineen.com/COLUMNIST/Writings/custody.htm

 

A Critical Assessment of Child Custody Evaluations: Limited Science and a Flawed System; July 2005, Journal of the American Psychological Society - Robert E. Emory, Randy K. Otto, William T. O'Donohue - http://www2.psychology.uiowa.edu/faculty/harvey/A%20Critical%20Assessment%20of%20Child%20

Custody%20Evalutions%20-%20Limited%20Science%20and%20a%20Flawed%20System.pdf